Seriously, this entry is not related to the previous 2 seasonal crush that I had. It's a recent one perhaps. The first seasonal love (I met her every weekends, during training. So realized that I don't had any feelings with her anymore...), while the second 1 is already a goner, weeps...Today's a tired day with all the hops, turtle crawls, tendon straining in martial arts class; however I'm dedicated to reveal my heart's content. As I had done something that caused my heart to hang in oblivion, I've decided to state out the points that would lead to my current condition. It's just to clear my mind actually.
I just did something that I believe I would never accomplish during my earlier days of living with multicultural people: falling in love with a Malay girl. Not being racial or anything, as typically I'm 1 myself. But, the Malays from my state is in an absolutely varied lifestyles, everything included. Stating all my previous crushes that I ever had in my life:
It's heavily CLASSIFIED INFO THAT I NEVER REVEAL TO ANYONE:
1. Connie Lau Leh Ping : She's a a girl that I had a fling on in Primary 4 (not dating, just had an "on" to her). Later, I realized that's she's the type that's not consistent. So, forgot it soon...2. Amy Lee Chai Sieng : My ideal first puppy love in Year 6. I'm a class monitor then, active in everything before I went into depression at 14 (she's sitting in my back, so our relationship is very, VERY close. But not that close, hehe...)3. My "Spring Waltz" : Like I elaborated, down below in between the entries, explore it...4. My "Autumn in My Heart" : I constantly encounter her, but with each encounters, we never chat as compared to when we first met. I think she knows my timidness, but she didn't do as others did (when everyone sees a shy person, they would do the best to help him break out the shell). So, when I see her, my heart trembles less, but instead it makes me a hypocrite for not greeting her first. It's a common courtesy right?
The fifth one is what I'm going to share today. Boldly declaring it out, she's from my university itself (of course!!!). She's not that fair skinned, middle height, coarse in her behaviour, and takes everyone in her scope of conversation as an equal counterpart. As I wonder myself, why do suddenly had a mutual soft spot for this girl? She's the first one I loved to wear a headscarf, contemporary style, and nothing in complexion as compared to my previous car-crashes. However, something tingles me inside that I'm trying to investigate. I'll reveal everything about her so that myself could decipher what is the hidden coding that makes the program run inside my "Linux". My first courtesy to her is during our constant group meetings. Sometimes it's held on Sundays (it's the only day that I gets a break from my quite hectic lifestyle). But my will courage through my lazy pulling and bust through the invisible walls that corners my path to the library. Once, I brought a bar of ordinary chocolate, put it in my bag for about 3 days, hoping that I could somehow pass it to her whenever possible. Finally on one of the Sundays, I passed it. Although it's a bar worth RM4.20, her expression when she received it generally makes up the rest of my then miserable days. She even posted her appreciation on Facebook.
The second one about her is that I have a comfortable, shy-but-open up attitude when I talk to her. Just like when I encountered her at my campus's opposite side printing shop. Didn't noticed her by then. Only when her friend acknowledged me about her presence, she turned her back opposite me. I see her embarrassed complexion, when she say "Hi" in a coarse but somehow friendly manner. My heart feels warm, but somehow excited at that time. This happens as a few days prior, I've given her a birthday gift (2 weeks late indeed, LOL). As before, she's so grateful that she keeps on text-ing me, thanking me all the way. To be exact, all my gifts to her is some cheap stuff, however she states that it's sincerity that counts. We text-ed each other that evening. I'm supposed to rest as my headache intensifies that particular day, probably from my consistent nap time at 3 a.m.. But I feel grateful that someone appreciated my tiny effort. I'm glad that every time I gave her stuff, she holds it in high regards. However, she keeps on avoid our head-on encounter, even in class. And myself is doing just the same because I'm dumbfounded when I face her head-on. (I know it's shyness lingers, of course...)
The only thing that boggles my consciousness is that I' reminiscing about my previous feelings towards unrelated people. Is it that as I didn't receive any care from anyone (except my little brother), I consider these trigonometry as a feeling called LOVE? Or could it be the contrary, that I need someone to love me, treat me warmly? Feelings are budding within, but I never expected that I would fell in love deeply with someone from my own race. I know very well the consequences behind mixed marriage: should we somehow, someway got together, would it become a disaster as well? Furthermore, my current living style might not be able to adapt to her religious norms. I do pray, recites, believes in God, practices everything that He instructs, however I believe that I'm not a perfect individual. My upbringing in Islam is really fragile, as my basic core - the bastard never taught us or nurtured us within the same environment that parents in Peninsula would perform to their offspring. So I'm like living in dual reality: 1 which I believe dominants over the others in sudden timings. So, should I ever express my feelings to her, would I be greatly be rejected? I can see that she couldn't get along well with the ideology of Chinese lifestyle. Even when I told her about my room mate's condition, she enrages to the fullest, encouraging me to stay at the core and never give in. When I speak Mandarin to my course mates, I can see that she's not comfortable with it. Should I manage to nurture a relationship with her, would I had to abandon my Chinese culture, and adapt fully to her ways of living? I couldn't bear to see my mother's words of encouragement about finding a partner candidate other than my own race breaks like glass shatters. So, should I come clean about my feelings to her? Couldn't dare to do just that yet.
I couldn't bear to hurt another individual's feelings, just goes along with my living world of pain. But I feel that my feelings to her is sincere. When I see her comments to the other guys, I feel a shred of jealousy within my consciousness. When I close my eyes, her imagery of harshness pops out 10 minutes before I could be drowsed into dormant state. So, is it love? Or feelings just to get closer to her? I had no idea. One of my experienced boy-friend (who worked together with her in our group projects) advised me to go get her. There's a few reasoning of course, which I would think as correct indeed. Firstly, Chinese wouldn't volunteer to convert anyhow (as far as my mother falling for that guy, she later mourns about her painstaking decision). Second, races other than Malay would just see me as a typical 1 indeed, no matter how fluent I could blend in their kind. So, I'm now stuck in between the lines. Should she ever read this entry, it would be obvious that I'm mentioning about HER. Looks like I'll need to enforce an absolute verdict really soon to solve this mind-boggling complication web of conspiracy.
It's just another over reacting ideology of conspiracy, where i OVER expressed my one-sided feeling towards this girl. Maybe she's just isn't the kind that's destined for me, nor me for her. So, trying to forget this feeling as of present times......:-(
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