Saturday, October 20, 2012

Please, No More Misery...



Again, my life had been caught in a web of conspiracy.  Conflicts are a common sight when you’re stepping into the world of maturity, but it depends on how well yourself could handle all those mind-boggling stuff.  As of today after last week’s conflict with someone within my surroundings, once again I found myself caught in the net of sticky quarrels, partly due to my inattentiveness to allow myself to be pushed to the extent of being bullied.  Now, I’m sick officially, partly flu, fever, and nausea.  Congratulations, Farid.  You’ve exceeded your limit of patience, that your mind is converting those negative depressing thoughts into germs that had overcome your antibodies…

A part of myself is filled with anger, but mostly disappointment with my “former” flame, the woman that I loved & endeared so much without a single shred of reasoning.  My cognitive engine is empowered by her imaginary expression of apologizing to myself, while firmly stating that she just wanted to be my FRIEND.  Here’s what’s been going on that’ll lead to this problem.  A few weeks ago, myself is attracted to a watch item sold by my course mate ( got to admit it, it’s stylish & trendy although it’s not water-resistant).  So, during my trip to the National Arcade (we went there for some History research), I repeatedly inquiring my good pal Fikrul to order 2 of those for me (with purple for her, I know she’ll like it & brown for me), & so he did the next day.  My heart shrugged with delight once Fikrul brought the watch the very next day, handed it to me.  Man, purple looks so nice, bet she’ll love it.  That’s what I initially thought.  And that became the artifact of my misery.  During that very evening after I ended class, she texted me about it, repeated inquiring about my motives to give her that pretty  little waist decorative item.  She said that she did have in mind to order it, however due to insufficient cash she deferred her intentions.  I was so happy as a man that I actually made her glad about the same thing that came across her mind, which is the watch.  Sweetness lingers a few days after that.  However, it ended in depression that I had today.

A few days ago, she texted & called me about the very same incident.  She told me that there’s a slight flaw in the deliverance of the gift; it’s been handed over IN FRONT of the entire class, with my name been mentioned in between.  She asked me to imagine about how embarrassing it had been ever since that people acknowledged my intimate relationship with her.  It’s as if she doesn’t want anything to do with me anymore.  With people repeatedly gossiping about me in front of her (some of it was the very same person that had read my blog), it had initially reached her boiling point.  Prior to this incident, she went to Perlis for some interview with a prominent Senator.  After she returned, she keeps on texting me, telling me to meet her because she had something to hand over (I know that she couldn’t take my common courtesy, she is definitely going to pay it back soon enough), but I never expected the cold shoulder that she gave me when I rushed to the library’s spot of leisure, accompanied by 1 of her friend.  When I reached there, she didn’t give me the usual grin that she exudes with my appearance.  I guess it’s probably due to her friend’s appearance on the scene, didn’t think of it much.  What surprised me after that is not just the item that she insisting on giving me, but how freezing the environment we’re both in.  A keychain, Winnie the Pooh’s.  I told her that I love bears, I get it.  But after she gave me that, she looks like she’s not going to enjoy my presence in the compound.  So, after noticing the slight change in her behavior, I left the scene with a cool aura, not causing any suspicion to her that I maybe feel dejected.  How heartbroken I was on that day.

A week after that, the same scenario happened.  She suddenly contacting me, asking whether I feel dejected about her post in FB that she deeply shuns people’s perception about us coupling (she didn’t mention my name in the entry, however 120 people of my course knows it’s definitely ME).  So, the very same text that I perceive she sent, maybe inquiring about my well being & stuff is constantly the same content: SORRY.  I mean, I just don’t know how to answer her anymore.  I really give up quite some time ago.  She didn’t notice that I constantly posting about heart-broken status, that it’s referring to HER.  So sad, that our relationship eventually ended like this.  It couldn’t hold much longer.  The problem arose from her impatience to handle people’s critics, be it should she really DO had feelings for me.  I mean, it’s just so sad.  A few of her friend privately inquiring about the matters to me, whilst they had used some offensive term in order to console my “colour”online.  Did they reject the possibility that my emotions are somehow involved, not just one-side pain jerking?  Is it my fault that this stuff happened?  I’m just doing fine with her, not until all these disruptions appear.  Wherever there’s sugar, there’s ants they say.  The message ended yesterday, when I decided that I’m through with her.  I didn’t reply her text via phone nor FB.  As I’m accompanying my friend Nurul Nasirah (her pal as well, they did some outing right after that) to visit some pet store near the vicinity of my crib, we share together a lot of things that I THOUGHT may be true.  She advised me that our relationship may not meant to be, as from what she hear, I’m suffering a lot even prior before it officially started.  She asked me to love her as a friend, not across the boundaries.  It’s better left that way, than 2 side ended up in pain.  Even a phone call with my mom today (we usually talk about depressing stuff regarding our household, but today my mom truly acts as a MOTHER to me, consoling & advicing me) eventually cleared my conscious a bit.  If I’m healthy at the moment, I may not feel this bad.

So it comes to this.  I’m only imagining things all these while.  All my efforts went in vain.  My heart, scarred in the name of love for the very first time.  My happy composure of feelings with her harshness in nature, been flushed down the drain at this very moment.  I feel a deep void of sorrow, revolving in my veins, forming an agglutination of fetish lump known as SADNESS.  To my dear “colour”, why do you feel indebted to me so much?  It hurts me inside when you constantly mention about the term “good friend”, “let’s keep it to just that”, or “Sorry if I hurt your feelings…”.  After all this while, can’t you feel it?  Why is it happening?  I’m deeply sincere in everything that I provide you.  I like your harshness, your smile, natural composure, everything.  However, things aren’t just going to go our way anymore.  I swear I’ll avoid her after this, decreasing our contacts, because TIME is the cure to this sickness.  These are not the only conflicts that I had within these 2 weeks.  I even fought with my History major group mates, as I couldn’t stand their queerness & dominating nature to me as a male in the group.  The corrected my every line of work, reading it as if it’s a primary school essay, deploy me on solo missions of interviewing, editing a lot of pictures that they thought it’s easy, using a tone of discernment when talking to me (as if repeating everything I said, then with a simple negation “No!!!” rejects my opinion), even left me with fury over the improvised perfectness they demand on their work. Didn’t they realize that they’re the kind of people that would be the upperline of social hierarchy, looking down upon their subordinates when they’re out in the deep blue sea of occupation?  I snapped last Tuesday night when I opened my FB messages, when they cussed & accused me of not cooperating to finish the sudden required interview transcript.  I really cursed them that night, finishing the 57 –minute interview summary then delivered them to their inbox.  The quarrel continues on the next morning.  As my anger haven’t completely receded, I mentioned about the reason behind my dullness to my buddies (Fikrul again, with Syamsul this time).  Little did I expect that they’re eavesdropping from the front.  So right after the class, they dragged me out of the class, continuing on with their so historian-like fact debates.  They complained that I shouldn’t reveal their weakness to outsiders, although they may seem at fault.  It’s also my mistake, I admit that I went astray to express my anger.  With a constant revolving on the main purpose of group project (that I think they didn’t accomplish themselves), besides repeatedly stating my weakness that I’m literally snapping, I eventually gave up to everything they said.  I know that they just wanted to improvise the “everything is halal” concept, where they didn’t want any dissatisfaction lingers after the task ended, thus affecting their chance of obtaining a “halal” A in exam.  You see? How hypocrite people these days can be.  Fortunately, there are some individuals that I know may still have a sincere heart to earn.

This time, I really felt sick due to these matters.  As now,  I’m praying deeply to God to repent all my sins, bless people who care sincerely about me, & may He guides the way of those corrupt people that continues on to manipulate the sensitive nature of people such as myself.

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Saturday, October 20, 2012

Please, No More Misery...



Again, my life had been caught in a web of conspiracy.  Conflicts are a common sight when you’re stepping into the world of maturity, but it depends on how well yourself could handle all those mind-boggling stuff.  As of today after last week’s conflict with someone within my surroundings, once again I found myself caught in the net of sticky quarrels, partly due to my inattentiveness to allow myself to be pushed to the extent of being bullied.  Now, I’m sick officially, partly flu, fever, and nausea.  Congratulations, Farid.  You’ve exceeded your limit of patience, that your mind is converting those negative depressing thoughts into germs that had overcome your antibodies…

A part of myself is filled with anger, but mostly disappointment with my “former” flame, the woman that I loved & endeared so much without a single shred of reasoning.  My cognitive engine is empowered by her imaginary expression of apologizing to myself, while firmly stating that she just wanted to be my FRIEND.  Here’s what’s been going on that’ll lead to this problem.  A few weeks ago, myself is attracted to a watch item sold by my course mate ( got to admit it, it’s stylish & trendy although it’s not water-resistant).  So, during my trip to the National Arcade (we went there for some History research), I repeatedly inquiring my good pal Fikrul to order 2 of those for me (with purple for her, I know she’ll like it & brown for me), & so he did the next day.  My heart shrugged with delight once Fikrul brought the watch the very next day, handed it to me.  Man, purple looks so nice, bet she’ll love it.  That’s what I initially thought.  And that became the artifact of my misery.  During that very evening after I ended class, she texted me about it, repeated inquiring about my motives to give her that pretty  little waist decorative item.  She said that she did have in mind to order it, however due to insufficient cash she deferred her intentions.  I was so happy as a man that I actually made her glad about the same thing that came across her mind, which is the watch.  Sweetness lingers a few days after that.  However, it ended in depression that I had today.

A few days ago, she texted & called me about the very same incident.  She told me that there’s a slight flaw in the deliverance of the gift; it’s been handed over IN FRONT of the entire class, with my name been mentioned in between.  She asked me to imagine about how embarrassing it had been ever since that people acknowledged my intimate relationship with her.  It’s as if she doesn’t want anything to do with me anymore.  With people repeatedly gossiping about me in front of her (some of it was the very same person that had read my blog), it had initially reached her boiling point.  Prior to this incident, she went to Perlis for some interview with a prominent Senator.  After she returned, she keeps on texting me, telling me to meet her because she had something to hand over (I know that she couldn’t take my common courtesy, she is definitely going to pay it back soon enough), but I never expected the cold shoulder that she gave me when I rushed to the library’s spot of leisure, accompanied by 1 of her friend.  When I reached there, she didn’t give me the usual grin that she exudes with my appearance.  I guess it’s probably due to her friend’s appearance on the scene, didn’t think of it much.  What surprised me after that is not just the item that she insisting on giving me, but how freezing the environment we’re both in.  A keychain, Winnie the Pooh’s.  I told her that I love bears, I get it.  But after she gave me that, she looks like she’s not going to enjoy my presence in the compound.  So, after noticing the slight change in her behavior, I left the scene with a cool aura, not causing any suspicion to her that I maybe feel dejected.  How heartbroken I was on that day.

A week after that, the same scenario happened.  She suddenly contacting me, asking whether I feel dejected about her post in FB that she deeply shuns people’s perception about us coupling (she didn’t mention my name in the entry, however 120 people of my course knows it’s definitely ME).  So, the very same text that I perceive she sent, maybe inquiring about my well being & stuff is constantly the same content: SORRY.  I mean, I just don’t know how to answer her anymore.  I really give up quite some time ago.  She didn’t notice that I constantly posting about heart-broken status, that it’s referring to HER.  So sad, that our relationship eventually ended like this.  It couldn’t hold much longer.  The problem arose from her impatience to handle people’s critics, be it should she really DO had feelings for me.  I mean, it’s just so sad.  A few of her friend privately inquiring about the matters to me, whilst they had used some offensive term in order to console my “colour”online.  Did they reject the possibility that my emotions are somehow involved, not just one-side pain jerking?  Is it my fault that this stuff happened?  I’m just doing fine with her, not until all these disruptions appear.  Wherever there’s sugar, there’s ants they say.  The message ended yesterday, when I decided that I’m through with her.  I didn’t reply her text via phone nor FB.  As I’m accompanying my friend Nurul Nasirah (her pal as well, they did some outing right after that) to visit some pet store near the vicinity of my crib, we share together a lot of things that I THOUGHT may be true.  She advised me that our relationship may not meant to be, as from what she hear, I’m suffering a lot even prior before it officially started.  She asked me to love her as a friend, not across the boundaries.  It’s better left that way, than 2 side ended up in pain.  Even a phone call with my mom today (we usually talk about depressing stuff regarding our household, but today my mom truly acts as a MOTHER to me, consoling & advicing me) eventually cleared my conscious a bit.  If I’m healthy at the moment, I may not feel this bad.

So it comes to this.  I’m only imagining things all these while.  All my efforts went in vain.  My heart, scarred in the name of love for the very first time.  My happy composure of feelings with her harshness in nature, been flushed down the drain at this very moment.  I feel a deep void of sorrow, revolving in my veins, forming an agglutination of fetish lump known as SADNESS.  To my dear “colour”, why do you feel indebted to me so much?  It hurts me inside when you constantly mention about the term “good friend”, “let’s keep it to just that”, or “Sorry if I hurt your feelings…”.  After all this while, can’t you feel it?  Why is it happening?  I’m deeply sincere in everything that I provide you.  I like your harshness, your smile, natural composure, everything.  However, things aren’t just going to go our way anymore.  I swear I’ll avoid her after this, decreasing our contacts, because TIME is the cure to this sickness.  These are not the only conflicts that I had within these 2 weeks.  I even fought with my History major group mates, as I couldn’t stand their queerness & dominating nature to me as a male in the group.  The corrected my every line of work, reading it as if it’s a primary school essay, deploy me on solo missions of interviewing, editing a lot of pictures that they thought it’s easy, using a tone of discernment when talking to me (as if repeating everything I said, then with a simple negation “No!!!” rejects my opinion), even left me with fury over the improvised perfectness they demand on their work. Didn’t they realize that they’re the kind of people that would be the upperline of social hierarchy, looking down upon their subordinates when they’re out in the deep blue sea of occupation?  I snapped last Tuesday night when I opened my FB messages, when they cussed & accused me of not cooperating to finish the sudden required interview transcript.  I really cursed them that night, finishing the 57 –minute interview summary then delivered them to their inbox.  The quarrel continues on the next morning.  As my anger haven’t completely receded, I mentioned about the reason behind my dullness to my buddies (Fikrul again, with Syamsul this time).  Little did I expect that they’re eavesdropping from the front.  So right after the class, they dragged me out of the class, continuing on with their so historian-like fact debates.  They complained that I shouldn’t reveal their weakness to outsiders, although they may seem at fault.  It’s also my mistake, I admit that I went astray to express my anger.  With a constant revolving on the main purpose of group project (that I think they didn’t accomplish themselves), besides repeatedly stating my weakness that I’m literally snapping, I eventually gave up to everything they said.  I know that they just wanted to improvise the “everything is halal” concept, where they didn’t want any dissatisfaction lingers after the task ended, thus affecting their chance of obtaining a “halal” A in exam.  You see? How hypocrite people these days can be.  Fortunately, there are some individuals that I know may still have a sincere heart to earn.

This time, I really felt sick due to these matters.  As now,  I’m praying deeply to God to repent all my sins, bless people who care sincerely about me, & may He guides the way of those corrupt people that continues on to manipulate the sensitive nature of people such as myself.

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